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I’ve noticed that to get anywhere, including rectifying the notably disproportionately low number of male students attending post-secondary or higher education institutions, males need the same strong support by the mainstream media (i.e. news, social, non-fiction literary, and even entertainment) that females have had for decades, and still do. Males have instead observed thus known that for the most part they haven’t been taken as seriously as their female counterparts. If anything, the media are generally cynical toward their cause. 

I even recall a metro-daily newspaper editor sarcastically referencing some educationally neglected males as “the poor little boys” in a brief phone call with me. Her attitude clearly rang with incredulity — that males cannot really be a socially/societally disadvantaged group (at least not Caucasian ones). 

In his book The Highly Sensitive Man, psychologist/psychotherapist and author Tom Falkenstein writes that, “numerous psychological studies over the last forty years tell us that, despite huge social change, the stereotypical image of the ‘strong man’ is still firmly with us at all ages, in all ethnic groups, and among all socio-economic backgrounds. … You only have to open a magazine or newspaper, turn on your TV, or open your browser to discover an ever-growing interest in stories about being a father, being a man, or how to balance a career with a family. Many of these articles have started talking about an apparent ‘crisis of masculinity’.

"The headlines for these articles attempt to address male identity, but often fall into the trap of sounding ironic and sometimes even sarcastic and critical. They all seem to agree to some extent that there is a crisis. But reading these articles one gets the impression that no one really knows how to even start dealing with the problem, let alone what a solution to it might look like. One also gets the impression from these articles that we need to keep any genuine sympathy for these ‘poor men’ in check: the patriarchy is still just too dominant to allow ourselves that luxury.”

A mindset maintains (albeit perhaps subconsciously) that: Men can take care of themselves, and boys are basically little men. It’s the mentality that might help explain why the author of Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology and How You Can Heal was only able to include one male among its six interviewed subjects, there presumably being such a small pool of ACE-traumatized males willing to formally tell his own story of traumatic childhood adversity.

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